If there is one truth in life, it’s that we will always worry about our appearance and what we do. We have nightmares of turning up at work naked. We constantly worry about having bad hair days. If we do something embarrassing, we’ll think about it for days. We are so worried about our external appearance and actions that it becomes something that literally keeps us up at night. That’s not fair – we’re all beautiful, unique individuals and the people that make cosmetics are making a killing off of those same feelings. Now, there’s a lot to be said about the beauty products that we can buy and some of their amazing benefits that highlight what we like about our outward appearance, the best accessory that you might be able to gain is an appreciation of how you look – right now.
Being concerned about our looks can lead us to do certain things. It can lead to constant haircuts and a new wardrobe every other week. It can also lead to things like cosmetic and plastic surgery which can drastically alter our looks – or fix minor things depending on the person getting the surgery – and the surgery itself. Again, there are certainly benefits to cosmetic surgery, but unless you want to learn how to cope and start recovering from nose surgery or something like that, you’ll need to start appreciating your natural looks!
It can be very easy to find flaws in your looks if you go scanning around for them. The thing is – nobody is perfect, despite what you might think. Cosmetics, surgery, and Photoshop as well as social media can make people look perfect, and that can damage our perception of who we are and what we think we look like. If you don’t like how you look, you’ll destroy your self-acceptance. Thankfully, our brains are rather simple things – with effort, we can rewire them.
Instead of looking for your flaws, look for your strengths, even in your looks. We can easily collate negativity – so try hard to focus on your strengths. It is a lot easier when you try! If you have to, write down your strengths and what you like about your looks each day. This might be tough if you’re really down in the dumps, but you should be able to find one thing you appreciate each day. As you write and write, your list will grow and evolve. See yourself for who you are.
We’ve said it’s easy to be harsh on yourself, that’s why you should forgive yourself. If you don’t like yourself, you won’t find self-acceptance easy to come by. What’s more, if you don’t like the fact that you were negative regarding yourself, you will delay your journey to self-acceptance. Forgive yourself and learn to move on. It’s ok to be upset, but we need to be positive! Learn to shut off those voices in your head that disrespect you, but also forgive yourself for having them in the first place. You’re beautiful as you are!