Comparing ourselves to others is something we are all guilty of. But it’s something that has more negative effects than positives. Comparisons can cause resentment and breakdown our closest relationships. They can make us feel bad about the way we look and lowers our self-esteem. Comparing yourself to others can also become an unhealthy obsession that takes your focus away from what’s important. Despite all of these reasons not to compare yourself to others, we all still do it too often. The reality is that none of us can be compared to anyone else. We are all unique, beautiful and successful in our own way. So instead of feeling inadequate to others, here’s what you need to do to stop comparing yourself to others.
One of the most important things you need to do first is show appreciation and compliment others. Tell your best friend they look good in a dress or congratulate your sibling on their success at work. Instead of looking for areas where you can compete, show that you are proud of them. Hearing kind words from the people we love can instantly help to build self-esteem and confidence. It can also provide us with some much-needed reassurance. Even though you might think your competition is confident and carefree, it’s likely that they aren’t. So showing your appreciation and gratitude can make a big difference to both of your lives. It may seem strange, to begin with, but the more you do it, the easier it will become.
Be inspired by your successes
It can be easy to forget about your own successes when you’re always comparing yourself to everyone else. So write down a list of your personal successes and display it somewhere prominent. Add to this list every time you achieve something, even if it is only small. Get into the habit of reading this list each morning before you leave the house. This will remind you that you too have many great successes and things to be proud of. The list can also provide you with a wealth of motivation that can make you strive for more.
Remember that nobody is perfect
No matter how much plastic surgery a person has or promotions they receive, nobody is perfect. The face we show to the outside world isn’t always the truest representation of ourselves. So no matter how much you idolize a celebrity, friend or colleague, they have faults and troubles like anyone else. So rather than seeing yourself as beneath them, consider yourself as their equal. This should make it far easier to stop comparing yourself to them. The only person you can truly compare yourself to is yourself. Strive and focus on becoming the best version of yourself you can possibly be rather than trying to be someone else.
Take what you have learned from this guide and use it to break free from your unhealthy comparisons. Once you start seeing yourself as one of a kind, it will be harder to compare yourself to anyone.