Bodies. We have a weird relationship with them don’t we? Some of us are obsessed with fuelling them right, getting them toned and fit and can actually work too hard on keeping them in shape. Others are perfectly happy with what they are given, they understand we are all different and find confidence in their curves. However a huge number of us aren’t happy with the way we look or the way we feel.
There are many factors which lead us to have a negative relationship with our bodies. Firstly, and most talked about, are the unrealistic images that are posted on the front cover of magazines. The perfect body is now seen as athletic and slim. Breasts need to be a nice handful, but should be perky and full. Images that we see on the internet show no signs of stretch marks and no pimples or patches of dry skin. Is this because the models have flawless bodies? Not always, no. It’s because we now have a million ways of faking it.
They way magazines think we should look is very different to how evolutions thinks we should look. For example, women with bigger breasts and larger bottoms are usually favoured by men even if they think they prefer the toned types. That is because they are naturally wired to find the best woman to reproduce with. That is what mother nature wants, us to team up with the best man or woman possible, to keep our species alive.
The perfect body shape has changed so much over the decades, with larger, voluptuous bodies being favoured in Roman times. If you take a look through the history of art, you will see how the women that were seen as beautiful were not the shape of women we believe are beautiful today. Perhaps it is the media and celebrity culture that has changed our perception, but whatever it is, there are more and more men and women striving to create the impossible.
Of course, there is nothing wrong if you can achieve that look. It’s just that we can’t believe you will have no areas on your body that have a slight flaw. What is sad about the images we see in magazines is that these flaws aren’t celebrated. Stretch marks for example, often tell a story. Whilst most women hate their stretch marks, there are man more men who adore their partners marks. Saying they remind them of the beautiful time where they were pregnant.
There was a really incredible advert recently, where the cosmetics company Dove decided to take women and men who had never met before. In pairs they spent some time with each other. Then separately they then had to sit behind a screen. Firstly the person had to describe how they looked. A criminal sketch artist then drew them. Next they had to describe the person they were paired with. The artist then drew that. The results were shocking. In each case the artist managed to capture the look of the person through the third party description. Highlighting how differently we see ourselves.
So, what can we do to improve the way we feel about ourselves? Firstly we need to reconsider our relationship with celebrity diet trends and fitness routines. Taking on the bbg program is probably not going to work for you, it will just cost you extra money and might be forcing your body to adopt a shape it isn’t naturally happy at.
Instead of following Kim Kardashian’s guide to getting fit, why not listen to your own body? It knows what shape is best for you, you just aren’t listening.
So, how do you listen to your body. The first thing, get hydrated. Ensuring you have enough water will increase your bodies ability to talk to you. To show you through your taste and other senses what it needs or wants. Those hunger pains you think you are experiencing? Quite often they are due to thirst. Plus, if your body is telling you you need a drink, you are already dehydrated! So don’t ever wait to get thirsty. Keep topped up throughout the day.
Once you have established a healthy hydrated relationship with your body, you then need to remove all the dirty foods. Such as sugars and refined products. Processed foods are not good for us and they send all the wrong signals to our brains. Giving us cravings. These are falls cravings though. Think of sugar grains as little soldiers. Soldiers sent into your body to make you fat and unhealthy. Once you eat that delicious sugary donut, they set to work on reprogramming your body. Soon your brain tells you you need sweet things. Unfortunately this is just another way you stop listening to your body. You end up piling on the fat and your own body can’t fight back
Instead, get yourself on a clean eating plan and remove all the sugary foods you can. Balance natural sugars, these aren’t as bad as refined ones. However keep your eye on how much natural sugar you consume too. After 4 weeks of eating this way, you will start to see that your body communicates with you all the time. Now you will understand when you need fuel and when you are just craving it, through boredom or thirst. You will realise that your body gives you all the signs you need to create the shape it should be. You will also start to see dramatic results when it comes to your shape and overall wellbeing.
Getting active is the last step to truly meeting the shape your body looks best at. You don’t need an insane workout video. You just need to get out regularly, walk, run or swim. Increase the intensity at which you work and allow your body to tell you when you are ready to take it to the next step.
If you learn how to listen to your body. You will find yourself getting to the shape that is best for you and you will keep that shape.