When it comes to fashion, we’re all guilty of telling ourselves things that don’t quite stack up to scrutiny. With a world of differing opinions, it can be easy to find yourself not knowing quite what to think. You can convince yourself something related to style is imperative one minute, and just as quickly disregard it as passe the next. You can make bad decisions for good reasons and vice versa – all the while swirling in different opinions as you try to hone your own style.
Well, maybe it’s time to bust through some of those. If you have ever found yourself thinking any of the following, then it might be time to chide yourself and move on. Here’s why.
“If something is popular, I should be wearing it.”
Not only does this hark back to what your Mom used to say when you misbehaved and blamed your friends’ influence (“if all your friends jumped off a cliff, would you?!”), it also divorces you from original thinking.
If something is popular, that doesn’t mean it’s synonymous with it being good. It just means it’s popular. If a style of dress is all the rage and you still feel like a frump in it, then going along with fashion isn’t going to help you at all. It’s going to make you feel like a frump. So feel free to take a pass on a fashion trend if you don’t feel it works for you. You don’t have to “find a way to make it work” the way all fashion advice will try and convince you. Just say no and move on – soon, the trends will change and you won’t have compromised your personal style.
“What’s fashionable bag-wise depends on the time of day it is.”
Okay, so it’s easy to see where we can get this idea from. Bags seen on the runway and in magazines tend to be large when intended for day use and tiny when it comes to the evening. You won’t see a fashion photo of an evening gown being competed with by a huge tote bag, and you won’t see tiny clutches being promoted as the perfect accessory for an afternoon out with friends. So you fall into a trap of separating your bags dependent on the time of day, which in reality… doesn’t make much sense.
The only thing that should really be at the forefront of your mind is what you need the bag for. Yes, yes – practicality over fashion is an idea that’s been done to death. But that’s only because it makes sense. If it makes sense for you to take a smaller saddlebag purse out for an afternoon or a large bucket bag for a night out after a day at the office, then so be it. You’re just inconveniencing yourself if you do otherwise – and fashion should fit in with your lifestyle, not vice versa.
“I can’t wear that color, it doesn’t suit my skin tone!”
The principle here makes complete sense. Colors may look wonderful on one woman and absolutely outrageously bad on another. However, it’s not the color that you should be blaming – it’s the shade.
Yep, any person can wear any color – so long as they pick the right shade. Take Pantone’s Color of the Year for 2017; Greenery. That would be the wrong shade of green for someone with blue eyes and blonde hair – but they would look fantastic in mint. Shade is what you need to consider, not color.
As a general rule, if you are pale then go with pale shades or very bright, vibrant shades. Anything too muted will wash you out.
If you’re darker toned, then muted shades will look fantastic as will lighter ends of the spectrum. Dark colours may fail to stand out the way you would want, so pick bright, light or midtones for the best results.
“Overdressing is worse than underdressing.”
Is it, though?
There’s a scene in Breaking Bad where Skyler and Walt go to a party having apparently missed the “casual” element. It’s not a pleasant experience to find yourself in that situation – which is probably why so much advice cautions against it. The look of horror on Skyler and Walt’s faces is ease to empathize with.
However, it’s far more embarrassing to be underdressed when you should be wearing something more formal. It’s a lot easier to carry off overdressing as a sign of confidence – you’re just far too fabulous to tone yourself down! – than the other option, so go all out.